Healthy Belly

So, this health kick has been interesting and about far more than just weight loss. Way back in April, it started with some serious consideration with what was happening in my stomach.

Just a recap of what I've said before about my stomach prior to taking a probiotic.

For years, I've had pain. Sometimes severe and others less so. Sometimes I felt like someone stabbed me seconds after ingesting anything. Dairy has been off limits, along with greasy, spicy or fried foods. I've had a long list of medical tests run. Besides an MRI, I've had every scan and ultrasound of my abdomen done in the last 18 months.

For a year, I was on three double doses of prescription antacids just to keep heartburn at bay. I had reflux often and it was painful. None of the tests showed anything. I was told late last year that I needed to have my gallbladder taken out and be on mess for irritable bowel syndrome, even though there were no positive indications for either.

I also went through periods of depression that couldn't be tied to anything specific. I know there were some that were, but not all.

Fast forward to April through now and I can tell you that I am far more educated.

I enjoyed May through last week without many stomach issues. I didn't change diet much, but did start trying dairy in small amounts. No severe pain and no heartburn. I was able to get off all but one antacid, which was a single dose per day.

My change was getting on a good probiotic. I believe it has healed a lot of what was causing the pain in my stomach.

There are two really important things I've learned.

Keep in mind, this is a very dumbed down version of what I've read and may include theory as much as fact.

Serotonin is produced in the belly. Serotonin is the chemical that makes you happy. Not to be confused with melatonin, which is produced in the brain and aides in sleep.

It completely makes sense that people with unhealthy guts are going to have a tougher time producing serotonin. A lack of the chemical could increase the chances of suffering from depression. When the belly is healed and the serotonin can be produced normally, it makes sense that the person would naturally be happier.

I have experienced less depression and more organic happiness since being on the probiotic. I know some of that is exercising, but I noticed the change prior to exercise.

Over the past few years, I've heard how terrible wheat is for you and awful it is for your digestive system. For that reason, I stopped buying whole wheat products. I changed our bread to whole grain white and stopped buying wheat pastas.

Because I'm a sucker for anything pumpkin flavored, I indulged in the new pumpkin spice mini wheats a couple weeks ago. Oh they were good! A box and a half later, not so much. I was bloated, gassy and in pain. I was that way for 10 days.

Not only that, but it was like all the work my probiotic had done was completely undone. I was in pain and am still dealing with things like heartburn. I increases my probiotic dosage last week and am slowly getting back to normal again. I hate that I've had to get back on higher doses of antacids, but am hopeful that will be short term.

Obviously, wheat is every bit as bad as suspected for me. My husband finished off the half box and had a similar reaction. No good!

Regardless how good something tastes, it's important to know what your putting in your body and the effect it will have on your health.

This journey is far from over. These stomach issues have been discouraging and a minor set back. I'm ready to have my healthy belly again. It'll make me much happier!

Identity in Christ

Our preacher is going through a sermon series about growth in Christ and spending time on the identity piece of it.

It hit me this morning that my identity in Christ is part of the struggle I've had recently with my feelings toward one of my brothers.

For the most part, I don't struggle as much as others I know with my identity in Christ. Honestly, that has nothing to do with me being better or more adaptable or smarter than anyone. It's because God put two very strong, godly people in my life for six years who constantly taught me where to find my identity. I'm also not saying I don't ever struggle, it's just not my biggest struggle at times.

Those two people put a lot of effort into teaching me that I am first and foremost a child of God. God created me and knows me. He hears my prayers and he loves me regardless of how awful I am. God does not see me as my biological dad does. He doesn't treat me that way and he isn't warped like him. Nothing that is said or done to me is a reflection of how God thinks of me.

It was eight years ago this month that I was baptized. Eight years ago last month that I cut ties with my family. It has never been easy to trade my dysfunctional family for God and a church family. It has been unbelievably hard to trade that last name and turmoil as my identity for the identity of Christian and child of God.

On 9-11, my middle brother went to Wichita and did the high rise stair climb in honor of the fallen heroes from the Trade Center. A few days later, there were pictures on social media.

Firstly, I didn't recognize him. It took deductive reasoning to figure out who I was seeing. When you are looking at a picture of your own brother and you don't know who he is, it rattles you. I love my brother, but the years have stolen some of my memories of faces and voices. Or, maybe I have tucked them away in a place where they won't illicit pain or memories.

The emotion didn't stop there. He's a firefighter. That makes me proud of him. I have hoped and prayed that our dysfunctional lives would not keep them from having a caring, serving heart. I have wanted and hoped for them to have a softened heart under their rough exterior and broken lives. Both of my brothers are firemen. So proud!

There was harder emotions to overcome. I've been told over and over how physically unhealthy he is. Here he is, a firefighter. Either he's had healing in miracle proportion or we've been lied to for years. Knowing my family, it's more likely that we've been lied to for 20 years. Not surprising, but it's hard to swallow.

Another thing that struck me was the comparison. They are serving their communities. They are putting their lives on the line. They work full time jobs and care for their families. On the surface, they have everything. They look happy.

A couple things about that, things that are dangerous to think when you don't consider or see the whole story. They are so much better than me. They struggle less. They are happier. They have everything I want. They serve in ways I never could. All while I sit at home everyday and do nothing. I struggle. I don't have what they have. They don't need me. Their lives have gone on without any feeling of loss, while I grieve losing a relationship with them. I agonize over what we went through and pray for a better life for them, when they apparently don't need me or anything better than what they have.

All that would be true, IF my identity were still solely found within that family of origin. It's not though. My identity is different now. The difference isn't that they are better or happier. The difference is that my life, heart and mind have been transformed. I know the back story. There's not health for them. The things we find important are worlds apart.

I am a different person. I hope that if my brother saw me, he wouldn't recognize me. If hope he'd see a happier, more adjusted person. I hope he'd see that I'm a softer, loving person who cares deeply about him. I hope that after a few minutes, he'd see his sister by looking into my eyes. I hope he'd see that I am a Christian and those changes aren't to be feared but embraced.

Finding that identity in Christ has not been easy, but I'm thankful for it. As painful as it can be, I'm thankful my identity has shifted from that terrible life I left behind to what it is today.

Catholicism

With the Pope's visit to the U.S. Coming soon, there is a huge amount of media coverage on the preparations. As I see more, the clearer it becomes that I do not understand or subscribe to the Roman Catholic religion.

Honestly, so many of my friends who do identify as Catholic don't really seem to understand it either. All they really know is that they grew up and remain Catholic. Some, who can not give me a basic understanding of the religion are being raising their children as such.

Here are some basic things that I know about Catholisism. Not that it is all correct, but it is my perception from family members and friends, what they've said and how they live their lives.

My understanding and relationship with Jesus is not the same as a Catholics. When I pray, I have a direct path to Jesus and God. The bible is clear that I don't have to be perfect to come to them, nor do I have to go through anyone else. Catholics have an indirect route to Jesus and God. They have saints they have to petition to, so their prayers can be relayed to God.

To be forgiven, I only need to ask for forgiveness from God. It doesn't matter the type of sin, I am forgiven and need to turn away from the sin. They require a confession with a Priest, who then requires verbal repentance and the Priest offers forgiveness once that is done.

I am saved by grace and grace alone. I can do nothing of my own power to make myself good enough to enter heaven. The only way I can get to heaven is the grace offered to me and the sacrifice of Jesus. They believe there are a long list of things that have to be done before you can get to heaven. Otherwise, you are stuck in pergatory until your family has paid your high penitence.

For the most part, you can see Jesus in the lives of most of my friends. Most of them do not drink alcohol and not heavily. They don't smoke or swear. They go to church. Don't get me wrong, those things do not make you a Christian. However, those are the common marks of those who are.

I'm not trying to over generalize, but that's not the case in the lives of so many of my Catholic friends and family. They are excessive drinkers. They swear like sailors. They rarely go to church. I would say 19 out of 20 of my friends and family fall into that description.

There are so many little nuances between the religions. Too numerous to name.

Obviously, I don't understand those differences. I also don't understand why a visit to the U.S. By the Pope has Catholics crawling out of the woodwork. Even non Catholics are excited about the visit. I don't get it. I've been taught that there is no higher power than God. Nobody should be idolized. But here we are, as a nation, waiting in excitement for someone who is favored above God and Jesus. Someone who is idolized.

Keep in mind, I'm only being honest about my own confusion. I'm not pointing fingers or saying someone is right or wrong. But, it doesn't align with what I've been taught. Godly, wise people have put a lot of effort in teaching me. They laid out a gospel that looks nothing like what I see in Catholics and definitely not what I see in this media spectacle for the Pope's visit.

With all transparency, I have to say that my first experience with a Catholic priest was not favorable. As my cousin molested me in a Catholic Church yard, I watched in anguish as a priest watched through his parsonage window and did nothing to help. I've long since forgiven and this has nothing to do with my opinions now.

Truly, my only opinion is that I'm sad for my friends and their children. I'm sad that they are stuck in a religion they cannot explain. I'm sad that they don't believe they have a direct route to Jesus. I'm sad that their relationship with God is circumvented by their church and distorted from the true gospel of Jesus Christ.

Exciting Times Ahead

When things are going well, my default is to start anxiously waiting for the bad to happen. I'm not saying things are perfect at the moment, but they are pretty good.

We have a few hurdles coming over the next few months. We have travel and my husband has a surgery coming that will sideline him into the winter months.

There are a couple new things that are exciting and came completely out of left field.

The first is our involvement in our church's youth group. We have prayed for a place in the church where we could serve together. We make a great team and together felt like we could adequately support one another in serving. Since we belong to a small church, there aren't a lot of opportunities to serve and rarely any together.

Occasionally, I volunteer in the office and my husband helps in a rotation on the sound board during morning service. Both are very comfortable places for us to serve. A couple months ago, we worked together on a community service project and it was a joy. That was the point we decided it would be great to find a place to serve together.

A few weeks later, we listened to each ministry leader talk about their ministry and share the ministry needs. Honestly, we left a little irritated. There was really no place to serve unless we wanted to help with children. No thank you!

Fast forward a whopping two hours later and the Lord was working on our hearts. A young couple up the road lead our junior high youth group. They had asked for help with the group or even just events. We discussed it and decided that since we have a large vehicle and the time, we'd happily help with events. But events only!

Again, we began to discuss and learned the two were pretty much leading all alone. So, we prayed and discussed. Wouldn't you know it. We felt led to help and get involved as much as possible. We really felt led to help the couple leading, but after one event, the kids are a huge pet of it too.

Don't get me wrong. It's way out of our comfort zone. After spending an evening with them, I think we both are excited to share Jesus with these kids.

There's another super, big, gigantic change coming in our lives, mine specifically. I have prayed a very specific prayer for several years now and had pretty much given up, as if it was not the plan God has for me. And no, it has nothing to do with a child.

I'm bursting at the seams to tell everyone what it is, but the timing isn't quite right. I'm still cautiously optimistic. There's still too many unknown details. But as soon as I can, I'll explain a bit more.

It is absolutely answered prayer. When it was laid in front of me, I didn't get excited and I didn't develop an opinion either way. I talked with my husband and prayed. Asking God if this was the answer. The answer is waited for and had always learned it wasn't the right time.

This is definitely one of those times when we are both praising God and know it is His perfect timing.  I can't wait for the perfect timing to share more.

Of course none of these things will come without some adapting. After 18 months of adapting, you'd think we were pros. But I'm a realist. I know there will be some bumps and routine changes. There will be things to learn and our paths will cross with many different people.

Regardless, we are excited about what lies ahead.

The 50th

Earlier this month, we celebrated my husbands 50th birthday.

I'm not even going to try to fake it. It was a hard day, hard week.

The longer I'm married, the more I love my husband. And, the more I hurt when he hurts.

It was his first birthday ever spent away from his family. His family means the world to him. He still calls his dad once a week and calls his siblings on birthdays and holidays.

However, it's not reciprocal. Even though I reminded everyone, he got one call and one text on his birthday. His dad called a day or two later. A card came about a week later. It was sad to say the least.

I tried so hard to make it special for him. I asked his friends and family to please send cards. A friend and our previous pastor sent cards and I'm so thankful. Sad, but thankful. I also planned a small surprise party with neighbors and a couple friends.

We made special trips to eat some of his favorites. We also spent his actual birthday evening at the fair with friends. It was hot, but fun.

It was absolutely a joy to see people celebrating my husband.

But it was sad. The people he wanted and needed to hear from didn't bother. I know how hard it is to go through big things and feel forgotten or alone. I recognized the look in his face. That feeling of not being loved.

I'd like to tell you it's his misperception, but I don't think so. His family ha shown a very ugly side to themselves, very self absorbed. They definitely aren't nice to me and have been that way toward him more than ever.

I don't want this to turn into a bashing of his family, even though I have a ton to say. It's painful to see this once loving family fall apart.

My husband would tell you that his birthday was just another day. A 50th birthday isn't just another day. I know it was tough for him.

Honestly, my husband turning 50 was hard for me too.

We obviously don't have a clue how long we will live. I've had 22 years with him. Another 22 and he will be retired and 72. He's getting older and I can't stop that. I wish I could make time stand still so we could enjoy this time and this place. I'm not ready for time to be gone. I love him and want him as many days as I can have him.

I wish the depth of my love covered the love he's missing elsewhere. He's a wonderful man. I can't help but want others to love him as much as I do. I'm thankful God loves him even more and has given me the opportunity to live life with him.

Two Months

As of yesterday, it's been two solid months since I jumped into this healthier living journey. In so many ways, I can't believe it's been that long and at times it feels like a year long journey.  

I never thought I'd stick with it through two months. There were times I really felt like giving up, but I didn't. 

There have been plenty of days when I didn't get much exercise. Either the weather or my motivation didn't cooperate. However, I have stuck with my goal of walking at least 4-5 days a week. I may have had one week where I only got three days. 

There have been plenty of days when there was no diet plan and I blew it completely. I usually give myself one day on the weekend to eat without tracking calories. What I've found with calorie tracking is that eating wasn't really my biggest problem. On a typical day, I was probably not going over 1500-1800 calories. That's not a lot to start with for someone my size. The difference is definitely in the exercise and probably be more aware of what is going into my body. 

One thing I keep expecting, but hasn't happened yet is having a weight gain for my weekly weigh in. I know it'll eventually happen. I've expected it the past two weeks as I haven't been as diligent or motivated. 

I've been fighting that motivation thing. That's a hard one. I've not been sleeping well, so I've slacked off. Then I don't sleep well cause I've not been active. It's a vicious cycle. I've also not had the level of encouragement I had at the beginning. I can't say enough about how much that helped keep me going in the beginning. Having cheerleaders and encouragers was such an important part of the success. It's still important, but life and seasons change. 

So, here it is. My update for what I've lost the past two months. You don't have the weekly average, but it's about 2 lbs and 1/2-1" per week. 

Weight -32 lbs

Hips -6"

Waist -9"

Chest -9"

Shoulder -11"

Arm -4"

Thigh -7"

My clothes have finally started to be too big and I fit comfortably into all the size smaller clothes I bought last fall. Now if it will just get cool enough to wear them. 

Probably my only disappointment is that I don't see that much change. The weight is coming off all over. Even my socks fit differently. I put on a pair of knee socks yesterday that wouldn't go above my knee in the spring and now they go about three inches above. I have shirts that have never fit in the arms and now they do. I've never lost weight all over like this. 

Bare with my craziness for a second. There's been a fleeting thought for me with continued loss. Of course I want to continue. At my current average, I could lose another 32 lbs by years end. That would be awesome and I want that. But, a few more weeks of this continued pace and I'm not going to have any clothes that fit me. 

That's a wonderful problem to have, right? Of course, it means I have less fat and am far healthier. Here's the reality. I'm going to have to buy new bras, undies, pants and shirts for winter. I'll wear my hoodies until they fall off. But everything else won't fit soon. We don't have that kind of extra cash. 

I've started looking at second hand and sale sites, but have only found summer clothes in what I need.  I'm obviously not in desperate mode yet, so I've tried not to think about it. But how can I not? I'm already needing new pjs. Even Walmart pjs are expensive. I don't work, no income. So, it's crossed my mind to stop and call it good. That would be the cheapest decision, but I know the wrong one for my long term health. 

Anxiety

Lately, my anxieties have increased. I've noticed that when my regular daily routin is or is about to change or be interrupted, my anxiety increases.

Not that there aren't other things. Since getting Bell's palsy in January, I've have a list of residual issues. One of those is pain in and around my right ear. It's a little long in the recovery process, but I can't do anything about it. If I'd have chosen medical intervention and steroids, I might not have the issues. My right eye still twitches and I can tell my muscle tone is not normal.

Fall is the worst time for allergies for me. My allergies flare and then my sinuses are irritated. When that happens, my ears ache and I get pain down into my neck. It's the norm and has been for years.

Those swollen sinuses and Eustachian tubes are even more painful and pronounced now after the BP. The vertigo comes on fast and furious. The muscle spasms are hitting me hard at night.

It's all a bit anxiety provoking.

But those are probably minimal compared to routine changes.

We are getting ready for vacation. I should be excited and I am. But my anxiety spikes.

Vacation isn't for a few weeks, so I hope it will improve.

Because I recognize this pattern, I can deal with it now.

After communion at church today, it hit me that I don't really have to worry about this. I have the ability to pray about it daily. But it's more than that.

I know this, but it was a gentle reminder from the Holy Spirit. There's nothing that's going to happen that God doesn't already know. He knows.

Even better....no matter what happens, my place is secure in heaven.

As much as I want to be here on earth and live my life and love my husband, I don't have to worry. When that time is over, my eternal life begins.

It was just a good gift to be reminded that worrying about the day I will die is stealing the days I can live.

Oh Lord, I need that reminder often!

Time After Time

For whatever reason, I still cannot shake this current cycle of dreams and memories of my brother. As I've said before, it's been well over eight years since I've seen him and we never had much of a relationship as adults. When we were with each other, our relationship was toxic and physically and emotionally destructive. That doesn't negate the feelings I have for him.

From afar, I love him. We are both products of a severely dysfunctional family. I chose a path of health and he has not. But I still care deeply.

Also as I said before, he's a complete stranger to me now.

With the memories and dreams, I can't help that my heart is breaking and I am fully immersed in the grieving process.

This weekend was his 39th birthday. It's never forgotten. It's the same day as my husband's childhood friend/best man at our wedding. They share the same name and same birthdate.

Even though he's not much younger than me, I still helped raise him. I was there for him when he was hurt as a small child. And that was a lot of the time. I was the one who made sure he was fed, had clean clothes that fit, and his homework was done.

I know I've shared this before, but it's heavy on my heart again.

In 1983, Cyndi Lauper's song "Time After Time" hit the late night videos. At all of eight years old, the words of the song seemed to accurately describe how I felt about my brothers.

"If you're lost you can look and you will find me."
"If you fall I will catch you, I will be waiting."

I know this song isn't exactly about being there for your brothers, it's about a relationship. Maybe I didn't know quite everything at eight years old. What I did know is that when I sang the song to my brothers, it was comforting to them.

The words were valuable. In those moments when we all felt the world spinning out of control and completely alone, there was comfort in brief moments of quiet.

Now there is a commercial which plays often with a cover of this song. The memories flood back each time it comes on tv.

Our relationships all eventually fractured. We were pitted against each other. We also learned it was survival of the fittest. We all learned to fight for ourselves and against each other. It's a natural response when you are fighting for your life.

Despite what I've said, I believe I've held onto some faint hope of reconciliation with my brother. Now, realizing he's been a stranger to me for far longer than eight years, I'm finally being forced to let go.

Do you know how badly that hurts? To know you have a sibling who is living and breathing, but you must grieve them as if they are dead?

It's not the same as just being estranged or having a strained relationship with a sibling. I have that with my other brother. No, it's completely different. This is a loss. A loss that is far harder to understand than any death.

For the past month, I wished away these memories and dreams about my brother. Now I understand it's my mind and hearts way of letting go and moving on. I'm finally letting go of that tiny bit of hope which was buried deep inside me.

I'll always love him, much in the way I love others I've lost.

Bob

Note:  Since I do my best to not discuss specific people by name, I've changed this persons name.

So...Bob.

Bob is an older man in our church. He shook my hand this morning, as he does most Sunday's. As he started to walk off, he stopped again and said, "You look really good."

I thanked him and smiled.

My 30 lb weight loss is finally beginning to show, slowly. That in itself has caused several people to offer compliments and encouragement.

That may have been where his compliment came from, but the entire relationship is worthy of sharing. It's one of how God softens hearts, especially mine.

A little over a year ago was the first time I met Bob. Bob was an existing member of a bible study we started attending. Our first impression of him was that he was kind enough, but bitter and a whole lot judgemental.

Bob always had something to say during bible study. He came across as very black and white, very opinionated. Bob is an elderly man and I believe has lived in this area most, if not all, his life.

I believe because of those things, he has little tolerance for this progressive world. His era was filled with hatred toward blacks and absolutely no understanding of homosexuality. He's from an era where both were shunned and not shown God's love.

Those feelings and beliefs oozed out in passionate conversation during bible study.

Not knowing anyone very well and not having a good understanding of this very sheltered area of the U.S., we often didn't know how to comprehend what was said. It came out as offensive and hatred to us. Not at us.

One night, I left bible study in tears after Bob and his friends spent a good chunk of the study sharing their hatred toward gays. There was name calling, blaming and shaming.

I have friends and family who are gay. I love them. I do my best to love them how God would want me to love any of his children. So, I was taken back by such hatred spewed from mature Christians.

That night and many months after, I held onto hatred for Bob and his friends. People explained a little bit to us why Bob was the way he was. I was hearing none of it. He was hating people and I wasn't going to stand for it.

In the coming months, I got really sick and then hit an emotional low. That study group were the only ones who really had any clue. They saw the color fade from my cheeks and checked on me often. They were the ones who eventually saw the color come back to my cheeks and that I was improving.

During that time, Bob made a point to check on me on Sunday mornings. I didn't realize at the time, but that's what he was doing. About a month ago, he told me he was glad to finally see me smiling. The next week, he let me know he had been and is continuing to pray for us. And not just for our struggles, but specifically for us to have a child.

Piece by piece, he's let me know and not in a prideful way, that he has followed, checked and prayed. His heart may or may not have been softened toward us at first, I don't know. But I know now, it is. He's been loving us in his way.

I only begrudgingly shook his hand for months. But then God softened my heart toward him. I began to pray for him months and months ago. I began respecting him and his life's journey. God put it in my heart to love Bob and his friends.

I do. I love these people who once offended me. I care so deeply for them. I've checked on them when I haven't seen them at church. I've taken meals when they've been sick. I've sent cards when I've felt led. I've prayed and praised God for how they serve the church and set examples.

The compliment this morning was lovely. But, the evolution of the friendship and how God has worked in big ways....that's beautiful!

Slump

Tomorrow is my weigh in and measurement day. It might be the first one I'll skip in 7 weeks.

This last ten days have kicked my butt in so many ways.

Up to this week, I got plenty of exercise. Between cleaning and prepping for a guest and then going a lot while she was here, I didn't slow down much.

It is always good to have visitors. Don't get me wrong! But it's stressful and definitely gets me out of my regular routines. I won't say much more about the visit because it had special stresses. It kicked up a lot of OCD in me.

Since I was out of routine, I was only able to get 2-3 hours of sleep for night. That left me completely exhausted. A week later and I am finally feeling like myself again.

During that same time, I had a minor health crisis. Nothing that isn't getting under control now, but one that took me a step backward with my blood counts. There's a good reason why you cannot donate blood for 2-3 years after low platelet levels. It only takes a minor crisis or bump in the road to set you back.

All that to say, I'm just now getting some energy back. But this week has been hard. I haven't gotten much exercise.

I've also struggled with some emotional issues. Dreams about family have continued. I don't have a true place to process and download most of that.

We are coming through one year anniversaries of very stressful and tough times. A year ago today, I had surgery. It's also when we found out how close to death I'd been. This month will mark a year that we learned of our miscarriage and had another. Not that I'm stepping back into that realm of grieving, but it does stir up some emotions.

In some of my dreams, I am desperately trying to get my mom to be with me through some of the emotions and her response is always the same. She stands at a distance and laughs. Sad, but that's how she dealt with my rare displays of emotions as a child.

All of that has been a pretty heavy load to carry. There's only so much I can share with my husband. His shoulders are already full with his own stuff. Exhausted, alone and deflated has made this a rough week.

It's the first week that I haven't paid attention to diet or even cared. It was the first time that the idea of losing only one or two lbs discouraged me. It was the first time in seven weeks that I really believed that I was wasting my time. It was the first time in this journey that I was content to just be a fat girl forever.

I know some people use a list like that to push them to work harder. Not me. It was my white flag moment.

Of course, I won't stay in this place. But I have to be honest about where I'm at right now. I have to know that every step of this journey wasn't easy. Not every week was about weight loss. I have to remember that some weeks were just about getting to the next week. I have to be reminded that weeks when I sabotaged myself, I could still start fresh the next week. I have to know that there were weeks when I was carried and the journey was never mine to take alone.

Comfortable Life, Bigger Plan

There is probably more than one post about this and there should be a lot more. Sometimes, and not often enough, what Jesus did for me overwhelms me and brings me to my knees. 

Admittedly, I sometimes don't pay attention to the communion devotion at church. They sometimes include personal stories or sports analogies that distract me and I try to focus solely on Jesus on the cross. Last Sunday was different. I hung on every word as the guy talked about how Jesus left heaven to be with us. 

Jesus came to earth in human form. His life was designed and formatted with purpose to teach us about sin. His life was intricately written to be a guide for us and how to live our lives. 

It wasn't all roses and sunshine. He had to convince people of who he was and fight their unbelief. I mean without the written prophesies at their fingertips, most had no reason to believe God would separate himself from heaven and come to earth in flesh. 

He was hated and even those closest to him doubted. If heaven is all its said to be, why would anyone trade it to be amongst sinners clinging to a fallen world?

I don't know about anyone else, but I don't like to step outside the comfort of my own little self created world. My house is clean, there's a pumpkin candle burning and soft music playing. The temp is a perfect 72 degrees. It's going to be near 90 degrees outside today. The flies and wasps are on their last leg of summer. 

It's a safe to say I'm going to hang out on the couch today with the TV, book or craft project. There's very little that could change my plans to stay where it's comfortable. There's very little I trade these comforts for today. 

That's a fairly accurate description of how we live life. Only big things ever change our desire to be where it's comfortable. Only crisis or God will push us out. And when that happens, we can trust that there is a bigger plan. 

Exactly! There was a bigger plan for Jesus living on earth. His death. Not only did he teach and leave us a guide for living, he came to die. 

I know I've said it before, but his sacrifice is more than I can comprehend most of the time. 

He didn't die a quick death. He was beaten mercilessly and nailed to a wooden cross. He died on a cross so that we could be forgiven. His death on the cross created our other to heaven. He gave it all for us. His life and his last breath. He gave it all. 

Jesus sacrificed his life so that we could one day know ultimate comfort. 

It's hard to believe most days that there's something more comfortable than my current surroundings. But there is. I know there will be plenty of times when I get pushed out of my comfy house. I just hope I always remember there's always a bigger plan. I know there is because Jesus gave his life for it. 

Reliving Firsts

Last weekend, my husband and I talked about how hard our first six months were here. It was truly a blur for us. So much was happening and our focus was on illness, finances and we were torn between here and there. 

Going into this fall, we will pass several milestones. Our first year of being free of our KC house. A year since grieving. A year of increasing health. A year of really settling. 

We were probably into this summer before things finally began to feel different, like this was home. That changes the perspective of everything. We had a year of living conflicted and heartsick. Now that those hurts have healed, we are experiencing things for the first time. We are living in the moment. 

Last year, I decorated for fall. It took me three days to clean and swap out decor. I had no energy and my heart wasn't in it. This year, it's taken a couple hours and it's made my heart so happy. 

I'm ready for the change of season. I'm ready to experience the Ohio fall when I can soak it in and enjoy it's intricacies. It'll be my first Ohio fall where I can see it with fresh eyes and a heart of thanksgiving. 

Not that I would have chosen how last year went. Up until then, the seasons changed and I rarely got so excited or felt as though I was experiencing it for the first time. Missing a year of changing seasons has given me a new perspective. 

Even though it's only September 1st, I'm ready for this next season. I'm ready for the smells of fall, changing leaves, pumpkin everything and the sounds of harvest time as I enjoy the cool breeze on the deck. 

I'm thankful to be in this place in life at this time. I hope it stays for a while.