Funeral and Family

I have learned that when there is a major death in the family, one of two things happens. Either the family comes together or they fall apart. Mine, fell apart. This one, fell apart.

Each person has their own ideas and that never works when everyone is in high emotion. Some siblings planned, while others fell apart. It was a mess.

She looked lovely. She looked a lot like she did before she got sick. That was nice. Probably the nicest part of the service. She was well loved, it was a full house.

Unfortunately, nobody offered any personal info about her to the guy who did the service. So, it was a very impersonal service that didn't do justice to the person she was.

I did my best to stay out of the way and support my husband. I failed at times, but tried.

It was a trying, emotional time. Nobody was ready to let her go.

She had been sick for several years. She had known most of her family for at least six years or longer. We had been grieving and wanting her back for a long time.

I selfishly had wished for this day for a long time. Not because I hated her, but because I knew she would never have wanted to be the way she was. I knew she would be angry with what ALZ had done to her.

The day of her funeral, I had to most guilt I have ever felt. I wanted her back. I wanted my husband to have more time with her. I wanted her to bring everyone together. I wanted her wisdom and love. I wanted just one more hour with her, one more day.

As they wheeled her casket down to the car, it became so final. The finality that death brings here on earth. She was gone. As I saw the casket, felt the finality, my knees began to shake and buckle. I turned around and my friend, Tracy, was there. She grabbed me in a hug that kept me from falling to the ground and held me for what seemed like forever.

The graveside was short and sweet. It was there that I saw and felt the love of so many. In fact, I think there are so many who love this family more than they love one another.

We finished off with the meal and headed back home.